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Saturday, April 30, 2011

4 of 4 - Oh the Power of Ecosexual Poetry! - It's Not Called Labour for Nothing - Yemisi Ilesanmi

It’s not called labour for nothing!

Ouch, what is that kick
That makes me sick
Breaking in sweat
Oh mine, I am wet
Is that mucous
Oh just focus!
It’s coming, go get the doctor
Stop looking at the buttocks
Tis no time for old wives tales
For I am in pains and already pale

I am coming, I am coming, you screamed
Keep pushing, keep pushing now you screeched
Oh nurse, this hurts, please do something
It’s not yet time, she keeps snorting
Tis was sweet but now it’s a dilemma
Oh no try a push and a dilation
Those sweet contractions
Are now a contradiction
That leaves me frustrated
No longer besotted

Push, Push, you are all preaching
I am the one that is screeching
The baby must not come breeching
Oh what, I am bleeding!
Maybe I need an epidural
Or is this just procedural
Heavily I breathe
Now I seethe
Not cumming in ecstatic  orgasms
But pushing a human organism

Oh, I see a head
Quick I need a lead
Oh nurses stop laughing
Maybe try fawning
This isn’t funny
 I don’t feel sunny
This is no botox
Where is the doctor
I might need a suture
To give me succour

Oh dear, here comes my baby
All wet, slippery and bubbly
Beautiful as the morning dew
You have come to pay your due
Ha, tis looking for the boobs
Ready to start the smooch
In my arms tis nestled
All ready to suckle
I am ready to nurture
I guess tis in my nature

Tis suckling, You are rustled
Dad is rippling but bristled
Those boobs are mine alone
On my terms I give and loan
I do all the labour
You get all the flavour
Never again will I be pushed
This was agony I am flushed
I need science of equality to share
Our baby together we should bear

Mommy is that my sibling
Oh no, I must be blinking
Can’t afford to miss my periods
Cos things can get too serious
Little bump and grind and the baby pops
Now all I have is a pushing tot that sobs
But then I should know
One, two, three years now
I can see a rounded tommy
Ready again to be a mommy!

BY YEMISI ILESANMI 22 MARCH, 2011


Biographical Note
Yemisi Ilesanmi
Yemisi Ilesanmi is a trade union/human rights activist. She has a Masters of Law (LLM) on Gender, Sexuality and Human Rights from Keele University, Stadffordshire, UK and a Law degree(LLB) from Obafemi Awolowo University ile -Ife, Nigeria. She works with the Nigeria Labour Congress . She has served on many national and International labour/ human rights committees including as Vice president of the International Trade Union Confederation (ITUC) 2006-2009 and President of the ITUC Youth committee (2004-2009) 

Yemisi Ilesanmi is a passionate human rights activist, bisexual, atheist and an unpublished poet and budding writer. She is interested in and often make public presentations on gender issues, sexuality rights, workers rights, youth representation and environmental protection. She is commited to a world of peace where justice reigns supreme.

Text originally published as a Note on Facebook, republished here with permission.

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

3 of 4 - Oh the Power of Ecosexual Poetry! - I Am a Single Mother - Yemisi Ilesanmi

I am a Single Mother

I am a single mother
Proud like the other
I was a young mummy
Now wise and yummy
Yes I have a son
As bright as the sun
You say he needs a daddy
For him to be dandy
But I need no ring
To make me sing

I am a single mother
Sleek as the otter
I need no rows
To take the vows
I work and toil
But I don’t spoil
I spare the rod
But he is not rot
Sometimes I smack
Never leave a mark

I am a single mother
That is not a murder
So stop the blunders
Enough of your slanders
You need a man
Like your Nan
Soon you will sag
Funny how they nag
I really don’t know for what
Certainly not for my want!

I am a single mother
I am proud to utter
He has a father
Who is just farther
You should know
It takes Two
Not just a procreator
To be his creator
A baby a community can scold
It takes love a human to mould

I am a single mother
Stop your muttering
He is not a bastard
Don’t be a retard
He is not a furnace
For your social menace
He is not a barnacle
But a special miracle
Landing on your moon
To make you swoon

 I am a single mummy
Both sexy and yummy
 I can date, I will get a sitter
Don’t be late, I need no cheater
Just be ready  
To go steady
No drinking late
That leaves you stale
Three is a number
That leaves me somber

I am a single mother
That can go yonder
I am proud to mutter
That I am no nutter
My son praises I sing
For he is a gift I bring
I need no wedding ring
Not even a big bling
Get out of your cove
For it is time to love

BY YEMISI ILESANMI 19 March, 2011

Biographical Note
Yemisi Ilesanmi
Yemisi Ilesanmi is a trade union/human rights activist. She has a Masters of Law (LLM) on Gender, Sexuality and Human Rights from Keele University, Stadffordshire, UK and a Law degree(LLB) from Obafemi Awolowo University ile -Ife, Nigeria. She works with the Nigeria Labour Congress . She has served on many national and International labour/ human rights committees including as Vice president of the International Trade Union Confederation (ITUC) 2006-2009 and President of the ITUC Youth committee (2004-2009) 

Yemisi Ilesanmi is a passionate human rights activist, bisexual, atheist and an unpublished poet and budding writer. She is interested in and often make public presentations on gender issues, sexuality rights, workers rights, youth representation and environmental protection. She is commited to a world of peace where justice reigns supreme.

Text originally published as a Note on Facebook, republished here with permission.

Saturday, April 23, 2011

2 of 4 - Oh the Power of Ecosexual Poetry! - My Genderless Love - Yemisi Ilesanmi

MY GENDERLESS LOVE!

I don’t walk straight
Not even for the bait
 I am merry yet not gay
 I am bi and I can bay
 But saying goodbye
Is not my hallmark
Yet you all smack
Like I always play
Our goal is acceptance
Where is the tolerance

I am not gay enough
To be enfolded
Not sufficiently lesbian
To be embraced
Do I even talk Trans
Can’t brace the rants
You preach diversity
As community necessity
Yet you sneer
While I leer

When in the mall
Yes I want it all
With the dick
I play and lick
And the boobs
Makes me smooch
The big breasted
Leaves me besotted
With the hermaphrodite
I am a smitten Aphrodite

With the pussy
I get all fussy
The shaven sight
To suckle all night
The pert bums
Makes me bowl
The bouncy balls
I love to maul
With the Pecs
I need no specs

I am bisexual, not a player
So don’t make me a slayer
Like you I choose my partner
It is a natural attraction
And not just a selection
A sex you choose
My love I embrace
It matters not the gender
All I want is tenderness
For my love is genderless.

By Yemisi Ilesanmi 17 March, 2011


Biographical Note

Yemisi Ilesanmi
Yemisi Ilesanmi is a trade union/human rights activist. She has a Masters of Law (LLM) on Gender, Sexuality and Human Rights from Keele University, Stadffordshire, UK and a Law degree(LLB) from Obafemi Awolowo University ile -Ife, Nigeria. She works with the Nigeria Labour Congress . She has served on many national and International labour/ human rights committees including as Vice president of the International Trade Union Confederation (ITUC) 2006-2009 and President of the ITUC Youth committee (2004-2009) 

Yemisi Ilesanmi is a passionate human rights activist, bisexual, atheist and an unpublished poet and budding writer. She is interested in and often make public presentations on gender issues, sexuality rights, workers rights, youth representation and environmental protection. She is commited to a world of peace where justice reigns supreme.

Text originally published as a Note on Facebook, republished here with permission.


Wednesday, April 20, 2011

1 of 4 - Oh the Power of Ecosexual Poetry! - Mother Nature, My Explosive Lover - Yemisi Ilesanmi

Mother Nature, My explosive lover !

Mother Nature
Beautiful you are
You smile and I waver
You kiss and I quiver
Aroused by your touch
Fed by your smooch
Melting my heart
Twisting my feelings
Swinging my being
With your seduction
Warm in the embrace
Of your blazing love

Your magical fingers
The waves conjures
Your tsunamic orgasm
Blows high and mighty
Many cry and scream
As you explode in cum
Your volcanic temper
Leaves me high and dry
In the grip of your love
I gasp for breath
How long shall I drown
In your magical prowess
Making love drenched
Like there is no tomorrow

Oh your anger
I cannot bear
You huff and puff
And the roof goes off
You blow hot and cold
And up it all goes in flames
You bat your seismic eyelashes
And everywhere floods
You shake your bounty
And the earth quakes
With your waves
The wind bows
You move a disc
And everything falls
Licking at your walls

Is it vanity that gives you airs
To sail on howling hairs
Do you seek attention
Or is it my provocation
That gets you in a hoot
For I am guilty too
Bombs I blow
Tear gas I howl
Carbonized air I emit
To get you to submit
Blame it on my human nature
To plough, prod and tear apart
But you my love
I thought are above
My human frailties
In all your subtleties

Lovesick I worship
At your holy shrine
In awe of your majesty
I marvel at your beauty
But now you come wheezing
With many screaming
Sorrows, tears and blood
You leave flowing
In the wake of your howling

Do you in sadistic pleasure gloat
Seeing the disaster you float
Or are these disasters
A harrowing cry for help
Do you cower in the dark
Hoping for a hug
You I cannot but bug
Amidst the floating bodies
Do you hear the screams
Of your helpless victims
Children, old and young
Barely hanging on
Do you flinch?
As they cling?

I preach acceptance
My wish is tolerance
I accept diversity
As life's necesity
But how long shall I bear
The brunt of your anger
Or is it just who you are

Oh mother nature, my love
With your tears you let me know
You are neither a God nor a Goddess
But like me, just a mere creation
You and I are not perfect
My human caprice we will capture
Your wild nature we will nurture
I tame mine, we tame yours
You and I babe
Can be together
A lifetime longer.

Yemisi Ilesanmi
By Yemisi Ilesanmi 14 March, 2011

Biographical Note
Yemisi Ilesanmi is a trade union/human rights activist. She has a Masters of Law (LLM) on Gender, Sexuality and Human Rights from Keele University, Stadffordshire, UK and a Law degree(LLB) from Obafemi Awolowo University ile -Ife, Nigeria. She works with the Nigeria Labour Congress . She has served on many national and International labour/ human rights committees including as Vice president of the International Trade Union Confederation (ITUC) 2006-2009 and President of the ITUC Youth committee (2004-2009) 

Yemisi Ilesanmi is a passionate human rights activist, bisexual, atheist and an unpublished poet and budding writer. She is interested in and often make public presentations on gender issues, sexuality rights, workers rights, youth representation and environmental protection. She is committed to a world of peace where justice reigns supreme.

Text originally published as a Note on Facebook, republished here with permission.

Saturday, April 16, 2011

8 of 8 - BiTopia: Conclusion and Works Cited. Read Introduction to BiReCon 2010's Proceedings Volume


Bi ReConNaissance: Introduction to BiReCon

Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio

Conclusion

Last August at UEL a sense of hope and joy of coming together emanated from the mere simultaneous presence of so many bis with different interests, backgrounds and motivations for participating.  When BiCon 28, 10 ICB, and BiReCon converged, BiTopia came alive.  The sober walls of academe were made more spirited and effervescent by the concrete presence of such an imaginative congregation of folks from many countries, genders, queer subcultures, age groups, venues, and walks in life. 

The 26th was research day and at BiReCon one would find work that breaks new ground.  The research presented was informed and reliable yet wide-ranging enough to trade in paradigmatic issues.  It was free of media friendly sensationalism and ivory tower abstractions.  The very concept of bisexuality, with its multiple meanings and implications, offers a prism through which the semiotics that organize cultural constructions of love can be sorted out. The contents of that day have been elaborated into articles and organized in five clusters.  We are grateful to the authors who submitted to us and revised.  We hope to have orchestrated a volume that honors BiReCon’s momentous quality. 

In subsequent days, one would get a sense of the lore of bisexuality, how bi people like to dress, how they relate, what they talk about, the urban legends they trade.  Imaginativeness, creativity, playfulness, a certain taste for the odd, the eccentric, an inclination for the carnivalesque, the topsy-turvy, for the giggly excess, the performative, the subversive.  Different age groups met, who have experienced biphobia at different times and in different contexts, yet with the same sense that integration of perceived opposites is what dissipates the fears.  The festive atmosphere was traversed with a vibration that energized the intention to respond to the challenges that make bisexuality necessary as a transformative force for the new millennium.

Cabo Rojo, Puerto Rico, February 20th, 2011


Works Cited and Consulted

Anderlini-D’Onofrio, Serena.  Gaia and the New Politics of Love: Notes for a Poly Planet.  Berkeley: North Atlantic Books, 2009.
Anderlini-D’Onofrio, Serena, ed.  Plural Loves: Designs for Bi and Poly Living.  New York: Routledge, 2005. 
Cantarella, Eva.  Bisexuality in the Ancient World.  Yale University Press, 1992.  (Original title: Secondo natura, “according to nature”.)
Chedgzoy, Kate.  “Two Loves I Have: Shakespeare and Bisexuality.”  In Bi Academic Intervention Eds, The Bisexual Imaginary: Representation, Identity and Desire.  London: Cassell, 1997.
Garber, Marjorie.  Bisexuality and the Eroticism of Everyday Life.  New York: Routledge, 2000.
Margulis, Lynn and Dorion Sagan.  Microcosmos: Four Billion Years of Microbial Evolution.  University of California Press, 1997.
______  .  Mystery Dance: On the Evolution of Human Sexuality.  New York: Simon and Schuster, 1991.
Marshall, Nowell.  “Refusing Butler’s Binary: Bisexuality and Performative Melancolia in Mrs. Dalloway.”  In Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio and Jonathan Alexander Eds, Bisexuality and Queer Theory.  New York: Routledge, 2010. 
Storr, Merl. Bisexuality: A Critical Reader.  London: Routledge, 1999.
Wikipedia: Docklands: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/London_Docklands


Thanks for reading us.  We hope you have enjoyed.  Please leave a comment.  More exciting posts to follow on diverse topics in the near future!

Copyright and Prepublication Notice:
© Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio, transferred to Taylor & Francis for upcoming publication in BiReCon, a selected proceedings issue of the Journal of Bisexuality.  Prepublished here courtesy of T & F.  Stay tuned for volume and buy it online!

Read the Journal of Bisexuality online, the only peer-reviewed journal dedicated to the study of all aspects on bisexuality.   Check out our latest: a provocative special-topics issue on Bisexuality and Queer Theory!




Wednesday, April 13, 2011

7 of 8 - BiTopia: Bisexual Cultural Productions, Interpretations, Reflections. Read Introduction to BiReCon 2010's Proceedings Volume


Bi ReConNaissance: Introduction to BiReCon

Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio

Cluster 5.  Bisexual Cultural Productions, Interpretations, Reflections

The imagination is the realm of human life out of which new visions emanate, with their powerful reverberations across space and time.  The fifth cluster includes contributions that discuss cultural constructions and interpretations of bisexuality in the social media, film, drama, and future life.  These articles, and the sources they discuss, help us imagine how the world beyond the homo/hetero divide—this wide open world without binaries--would feel, look, read, and perform like. 

“Blogging Bisexuals” is a social-media article that registers the experiences of two bloggers and their respondents to examine the role of blogging in the bloggers’ coming out process.  Sue George is known to the public for her work on bisexuality.  She also draws on her own experience as a blogger in this article.  The blogosphere is a new realm of the imagination where love is signified.  Its virtual character makes it more open to unconventional expressions and impulses.  Its accessibility makes it a natural resource for “coming out” of one’s asphyxiating monosexual lifestyle.  The two cases discussed show how the blogosphere served the purpose in different circumstances.

In “Bisexuality in the Cinema,” B.C. Roberts analyzes Anglophone film criticism discourse about bisexuality as mapped by critics who identify as bisexual.  Robert reviews a vast array of secondary sources ranging over a fairly inclusive body of films with prominent bisexual tropes.  Her claim is that this discourse has been shaped by dominant strategies for representing bisexuality.  Roberts suggests a focus on the medium itself as a way to eschew this dominant bias. 

Plays By Shakespare, Painting by Sir John Gilbert
On a more hopeful note, Kaye McLelland proposes bisexual readings for a significant range of Shakespeare’s works, including plays and poems, in her multivoiced article, “Toward a Bisexual Shakespeare.”  This is the kind of article any formally trained drama critic who honestly studies bisexuality would like to publish.  Since my early days as an English major in my undergraduate career at the University of Sassari, Italy, I thought English literature was fabulous because its centerpiece, its cultural icon, was bi.  That’s what really got me to continue in that field and specialize in drama!  “Two loves I have” (# 144) is the sonnet I typically use to start off my workshops on bisexuality.  The Bard declares he loves a “man right fair” and a “woman coloured ill,” I reason--who in the wide world could doubt he’s bi? 

The "Bard"
But obviously, my reasoning does not take into account the dynamics involved in the construction of national literary canons.  What if English children found out at a tender age that a whole literary tradition is built on someone so “unpromotable” and “unreliable”?  That’s where McLelland’s article helps out.  The only reason why I can think so freely--I realize--is that I’m not a subject of the British Crown!  McLelland enters the fray of this highly charged discussion with a gentle yet firm touch.  She claims that bisexual readings of Shakespeare are realistic and plausible, with the added bonus of being--to bisexual readers--highly desirable.  From her discussion, one gathers that the complexity and depth of understanding of bisexuality in Shakespeare’s oeuvre is such that it requires one to revisit all the meanings of bisexuality as they evolved in the modern era and became interrelated in culture and language. 

Oberon, Titania, Puck, in Midsummer Night's Dream
In this article, we observe that as a side effect of the homo/hetero divide, Shakespeare has been monosexualized one way or the other.  McLelland’s discussion levels the playfield to where any actual bisexual interpretations of a specific work or set of works by the Bard will register as as legitimate as one based in any other sexual orientation.  When it comes to a cultural icon around which so much in the ways of maintaining the status quo is invested, that is to say a lot!  Last but not least, Hartmut Friedrichs’ “Politics Strategy: Bisexual or Queer” envisions transformative goals for bisexuality that affect a whole range of areas in human life, and discusses strategies that may be effective in timeframes ranging from the present to a whole century from now.



To be be continued: 8 of 8 - Conclusion.  Watch out for this exciting section in a few days!


Copyright and Prepublication Notice:
© Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio, transferred to Taylor & Francis for upcoming publication in BiReCon, a selected proceedings issue of the Journal of Bisexuality.  Prepublished here courtesy of T & F.  Stay tuned for volume and buy it online!

Read the Journal of Bisexuality online, the only peer-reviewed journal dedicated to the study of all aspects on bisexuality.   Check out our latest: a provocative special-topics issue on Bisexuality and Queer Theory!



Saturday, April 9, 2011

6 of 8 - BiTopia: Bisexuality at Work. Read Introduction to BiReCon 2010's Proceeding Volume

Bi ReConNaissance: Introduction to BiReCon

Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio

Cluster 4. Bisexuality at Work

For people who work for a living, the expression of bisexuality is possible to the extent to which it is compatible with the way we make a living.  Research on bisexuality in the workplace featured prominently at BiReCon, providing evidence of a clear need to make the environments where people work more aware of bisexuality and its complexity.  Dispelling myths, educating people about differences, putting a human face on the ‘different,’ all of these areas of action are common with other queer subgroups.  But what is specific about bisexuality?  How do bis get constructed in public and professional spaces by those who don’t know us for who we are?  These were the foci of the “Workplace” BiReCon track. 

The three articles contributed to our cluster give evidence that more study is necessary.  Awareness of other non-normative sexualities that abide by the monosexual paradigm--including gay and lesbian sexualities--is by no means sufficient.  Indeed, it is precisely among these queer subgroups that the challenge to monosexuality bisexual people present is often met with most distrust.  Are bisexuals really “reliable”?  Or is some deep-seated distrust in the way of a fuller appreciation of our profession qualities?

Heidi Bruins Green, Nicholas Payne, and Jamison Green are a team of scholars who research the workplace experiences of bisexual people.  In “Working Bi” they present their preliminary findings based on an extensive questionnaire administered to over 800 respondents from five continents.  Helena See and Ruth Hunt also team up in “Bisexuality and Identity” to observe the experience of bisexuality in the UK, based on data compiled by Stonewall (a major LGBTI advocacy organization in the EU).  There is an uncanny resonance between the two accounts.  Both studies observe that bisexual people’s perceived “failure to choose” causes the perception that we are “less competent and reliable than [our] straight, lesbian or gay colleagues” (See, 7).  Green and her team directly correlate this construction with out-bisexuals being seen as “unpromotable by management and leaders” (Green, 15). 

Why does this sound familiar?  It’s another aspect of the homo/hetero divide--binary logic that clutters genuine perceptions of reality.  The perceived “failure to choose” makes the potential and talents of bisexual people largely invisible in the workplace.  Our talents get fewer chances to develop, to the potential detriment of society and the planet.  It’s time to reorganize discourses about sexuality!  Bisexual people choose!  Especially when we are out in the workplace--and any other areas of our lives--our choice is a very difficult one.  It is highly demanding of oneself.  Its price to society and the planet is yet to be assessed.  Gays and lesbians, who have suffered similar stigmatizations in the past, can now invoke the protection of monosexuality--with the affinity for monogamy that implies.[1]  More support from these sectors of the LGBTI community is desirable. 

When the playfield is leveled, when monosexualities are not considered intrinsically superior to bisexualities, that demanding choice will be a strong reason to consider bisexuals especially promotable and reliable.  In her brief article, Carola Towle outlines the progress of UNISON, a service trade union in the UK, toward outlining a policy appreciative of bisexuality.  Let’s hope that by the time this and other policies are implemented, the ignorance upon which this false sense of mono superiority relies is debunked. 


[1] For overlaps between polyamory (or responsible non-monogamy) and bisexuality, I refer to my edited collection Plural Loves (2005). 


To be be continued: 6 of 8 - Bisexual Cultural Productions, Interpretations, Reflections.  Includes comments on contributions by Sue George, B.C. Roberts, and Kaye McLelland.  Watch out for this exciting section in a few days!


Copyright and Prepublication Notice:
© Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio, transferred to Taylor & Francis for upcoming publication in BiReCon, a selected proceedings issue of the Journal of Bisexuality.  Prepublished here courtesy of T & F.  Stay tuned for volume and buy it online!

Read the Journal of Bisexuality online, the only peer-reviewed journal dedicated to the study of all aspects on bisexuality.   Check out our latest: a provocative special-topics issue on Bisexuality and Queer Theory!