Sunday, February 13, 2011

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"Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving"

BiReCon: Selected Proceedings from the 2010 Int'l Bisexual Research Conference

Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio, PhD, Keynote Speaker

Part 1 - Preamble: Manifesting Bisexuality, Cont'd

Back in the 1980s, for bi activists based in the US, part of the vision for bisexuality was the joy of being “out” as people who were “gay” too. The idea was that we too had an affinity for the gay planet, and that as “gays,” united, we would affirm that love is the cure--not the diseas--for our species and the web of life that sustains it. Getting the B in LGBT was an intermediate goal in that long-range vision. However, when that goal was reached, it seems that something happened to the vision. BiReCon was a perfect context to reflect on this. I started pondering questions like, “was there a mixed blessing in the inclusive acronym?” “Did the overall strategy get hijacked for some reason?” The question of marriage equality is often seen as cause for some of the hijacking in both poly and bi circles. However, this is unconfirmed by the latest jurisprudence based on the US Constitution. According to the Finding of Facts and Conclusions of Law in the case that is likely to repeal Proposition 8 (and hopefully deter any such future initiatives), marriage equality is based on gender equality and one’s right to marry those who inspire one with “tender feelings” (Perry vs. Schwarzenegger 2010: 13, 43). It looks like marriage equality is poised to become a 14^th Amendment issue. Experts describe sexual orientation as a “relational construct” and speak of three groups for whom equal protection can be invoked, at least as a possibility: “heterosexual, homosexuals, and bisexuals” (71). “Regulating filiation” is only a secondary purpose of marriage, since older and infertile people are allowed to marry too (13, 41). In the long range, marriage equality for all “gay” people is likely to transform the institution of marriage in directions that may be very widely inclusive of erotic and amorous diversity. Yet perhaps there are reasons why this victory seems Pyrrhic. In the short range, the high priority given to this issue does have an effect on bisexual people. Posturing for marriage eligibility involves a certain repudiation of non-monogamy, a certain acceptance of normativity. This posturing has happened while the question of pleasure, and the erotic practices that accrue it in relation to a sense of holistic health and well-being, is still in limbo. While female bisexuality can easily pass for a harmless divertissement, or, to extend the culinary metaphor, a hors d’oeuvre to whet the palate before the real meal, it seems as if bisexual men, equipped with the “weapon” most often considered vehicle of infection, have been saddled with the stigma of aberrant and predatory behavior.

Here are some examples from current social media. Dan Savage is a major LGBT columnist based in the US who to his credit believes that non-monogamy can be practiced responsibly.[1] However, when it comes to bisexuality he conspicuously posts derogatory videos on YouTube, as in “The Bizarre World of the Bisexual,” by one “Mister Sharp.”[2] Why does Savage get mileage with his followers from doing this? What’s the point of reiterating the litany that bisexual people don’t make “good relationship material”? Bisexuals, dear Dan, make excellent relationship material depending on the kinds of relationship systems one wants. Ask me! I only date men who are bisexual because as an artist of love I appreciate their enhanced capability to know those who are like them and love them intimately. What could make better “relationship material” than people with a special, inclusive talent for the art of love? Cultivating those talents is all one has to do![3] The reason why relationships come apart more often than we’d like sometimes is that we all live in a regime of serial monogamy. If amorous inclusiveness was more accepted, those with the capability to expand their love would simply add one member to the family.

One way to assess webs and flows in socially transformative movements is to look at parallels between movements with affinities for one another. In the early 1990s, at least in the US, the B in LGBT was a catalyst issue. Female leadership in the bi movement was undisputed. The issue of inclusion can be compared to the issue of the vote in the women’s equality movement in the early 20^th century. The vote marked a significant turning point in the countries where suffrage was won around World War I. And yet, for women in those countries, the vote had the side effect of hijacking other important issues, like equal pay for equal work or equality in the home and bedroom. For women in other countries, the effects were often even worse. So for the bisexual movement, the B in the LGBT acronym repositioned bisexuals as part of those capable of envisioning a “gay” future for Gaia. But it also had the double negative effect of temporarily de-energizing the movement based on the perception that a major advantage had been won, and of positioning bisexuality within a cultural location that was not prepared to honor its complexity or understand it for what it was.

Before the conference, I thought about the biphobia that’s part of my personal experience as a result of my relatively tucked away location in non-metropolitan Western Puerto Rico. One small example will suffice. In this region, I was one of the main energizers of the only secular LGBT community discussion group to have prospered in the past 15 years, West PR Friends. I educated participants about bisexuality and polyamory profusely. At the end of two years, only 10 percent of members claimed they’d form a relationship with a bisexual person! That’s how prejudiced the LGBT world still is. Fortunately, one such person is all I needed. And I found her! But for a long time I believed I should have been in London, Paris, New York, or San Francisco. Part of my involvement with polyamorous communities is a result of them being hospitable havens for bisexuals, and organized as networks that spread their wings over entire regions rather than being based in a specific city. The experience of BiReCon and BiCon helped me realize my situation is more typical than I thought it would be. It would appear that when considering bisexuality on a global scale, what we bi activists of the late 20^th century aspired to was a modest victory whose cost was just as high and in some cases higher than the prize won. As erotophilia expanded in the secular mainstream to include LGBT people, the B did provide some protection for bi people. However, this very same inclusion made bis more vulnerable scapegoats within gay institutions. As a cultural space where love can be practiced regardless of gender, bisexuality ultimately encourages love for the person. It is a piece of the puzzle in the project of affirming the force of love. Today I am even more persuaded that, as a transformative force, bisexuality cannot exist alone. It intersects with other amorous variants and options that open up horizons for expression to those interested in genuine, authentic, imaginative, and respectful ways to practice love.

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BiReCon | 28 BiCon | 10 ICB

Bisexuality Research Conference, 28th Bisexuality Conference, 10th International Conference on Bisexuality, London, UK, August 26-30, 2010

BiReCon Proceedings: A forthcoming issue of The Journal of Bisexuality

[1] See interview by Annie Corrigan, http://kinseyconfidential.org/dan-savage-3-non-monogamous/

[2] See video: http://slog.thestranger.com/slog/archives/2010/12/27/the-bizarre-world-of-the-bisexual

[3] This idea of cultivating talent in the arts of loving so as to create complex and fulfilling relationship network systems conducive of creative intelligence and even genius was not lost on people raised in such emotionally sustaining circles. A good example is Burgo Partridge, raised in the early 20^th century in the Bloomsbury literary experimental community, who grew up to be exceptionally knowledgeable in the arts of loving (Partridge 2002).

Thursday, February 10, 2011

4 of 9: Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving - Preview

"Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving"

BiReCon: Selected Proceedings from the 2010 Int'l Bisexual Research Conference

Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio, PhD, Keynote Speaker

Part 1 - Preamble: Manifesting Bisexuality, Cont'd

Attending BiReCon put me in touch with research projects funded by the American Institute of Bisexuality. AIB has been in action on this count. Its current emphasis on bi men is a way to put the accent where it’s needed. I tend to date bisexual men because their potential for love is expanded. They are more likely to enjoy their own erotic receptivity in the arts of loving and to be more adept in feeling the pleasure of the other. For me that’s the mark of an artist. I was overjoyed to see my hunch confirmed by research on bi men’s brain function. Apparently, when given a chance to feel comfortable with their amorous practices, bi men are every bit as healthy, happy, and sound as anybody else. The only difference is a plus: When it comes to bi men, we find erotophilia in abundance![1]

I also know of course how difficult it is for bi men to be out in their professional lives and as public figures. Most men tend to rely on their own income for social status and self-definition. More erotophobic stigma accrues on men based on the myth that women’s sexual capacity is inferior.[2] Poverty and the economic crisis round up the picture, with special effects on bi men in poor countries and minority groups.[3] I would have liked to see more of the work of Lisa Diamond on female sexual fluidity and the combination of heritable and circumstantial factors that result in one’s sexual behavior and amorous practices. Yet, by Diamond’s own admission, that of some of the women she surveyed in the longitudinal study, and from other research accounts, in our time, bisexuality in women is not as publicly stigmatized as it is in men (2008 passim, and Fahs, 2009). The need to design separate research projects for men and women seemed a result of the different situations faced by the two groups. Hopefully, AIB will soon develop a parallel research focus on bi women. Given the high incidence of transgender people in bi communities, it might be wise at some point to design research projects also for this group. Meanwhile, of course, research in the arts that extol the virtues of bisexual Eros is good too. At BiReCon 2010, the emphasis on bi men helped to focus on the most deeply seated fears in the way of imagining a world beyond the homo/hetero divide. Proactive research presented therein shows that, where secular values prevail, young men are less affected by the bi stigma (Ripley and Anderson, in this volume). Once we wade through these fears, the magic and fun of being bi begins to appear. Could sexuality be nothing but the sum total of the arts of loving in all their imaginative creativity?

The conference connected me with multiple new aspects of bisexuality in relation to activism, community, and research; aspects I could not have considered so well outside of the context the conference offered. I refer to the combination of social, local, political, theoretical, global, and intergenerational energies and dynamics brought together by the location, the combination of national, international, and research-focused events, the venue, and the teams of organizers, participants, and presenters. As that connection became more articulate, I became aware of how utopian, perhaps dystopian, and in any event unrealistic, my original intention was, at least in an immediate range and on a planetary horizon. As a participant, I was privileged to brush against a whole new generation of bisexuals who grew up while people in my age group were struggling with the early impact of AIDS on sex-positive cultures. Delegates came from many different countries and world regions. Bisexuality coexists with homosexuality in all these areas. However, in some cultures, homosexuality is illegal as in India; or worse, it is relentlessly persecuted, as in Uganda. In other cultures, a fast forward movement has made strides toward equality for gays and lesbians, as in Spain and the cluster of Latin American countries affiliated with the Iberian peninsula by language and colonial legacy. Obviously, regimes of coexistence vary with different versions of the homo/hetero divide. Picking up the aural energies in the context of these discussions opened up my ears. I became present to the malaise, obstacles, difficulties in the way of reaching out for that portal.

Acknowledgment: This piece is pre-published here with permission of Routledge, New York, a division of Taylor and Francis.

BiReCon | 28 BiCon | 10 ICB

Bisexuality Research Conference, 28th Bisexuality Conference, 10th International Conference on Bisexuality, London, UK, August 26-30, 2010

BiReCon Proceedings: A forthcoming issue of The Journal of Bisexuality

[1] This point was made in the presentation by John Sylla, from work in progress that did not make it in this volume.

[2] Sources on women’s sexual capacity and its expanded multiplicity include Winston 2010, Ley 2009, and Ryan and Jetha 2010.

[3] My main source is Scott (2007), another useful source is Dworkin (2002).

Monday, February 7, 2011

3 of 9: Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving - Preview

"Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving"

BiReCon: Selected Proceedings from the 2010 Int'l Bisexual Research Conference

Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio, PhD, Keynote Speaker

Pert 1 - Preamble: Manifesting Bisexuality, Cont'd

The idea of a portal is useful to allude to the socially transformative potential of a certain subcultural group or community. In my view, bisexuality is strong with this potential when it comes in conjunction with other healthy, fun, cheerful styles of erotic expression that enhance imaginativeness and creativity. In many ways the conference confirmed this for me. The Renaissance festive tradition was mentioned in relation to bisexual readings of Shakespeare.[1] Styles of erotic expression one could observe at BiCon included cross-dressing, gothic, naturism, gender-queer, polyamory, mild BDSM, and others. Research presented alluded to the need to define styles of love beyond merely functional sexual activity, especially among young people.[2] In these and many other similar contexts bisexuality is liberating because it makes erotic expression more artistic.

When I claim that love is an art, I don’t mean to deny its other aspects.[3] Of course love is a need and an instinct. In that respect, like sex, it is also an appetite and a drive. The problem is with a culture that considers it primarily as such. What I propose is infusing new value in love’s artistic quality. As a bona-fide Italian, it behooves me to compare appetites. Another well-known human instinct is hunger. Food is what notoriously satisfies it. In relation to this appetite, I’d like to call attention to the fact that most people appreciate the art of satisfying one’s hunger in ways that are healthy, sophisticated, diverse, creative, artistic, and respectful of one’s inclinations. We ask for menus when we eat out. When cooking is good, we consider it an art. We call it cuisine! More to the point, we tend to respect various styles of eating, including gourmet, country, nouvelle cuisine, fusion, ethnic, healthy, macrobiotic, vegetarian, vegan, locavore (for locally grown foods), and many others. We value sampling various styles and combining them to meet the pleasure and health needs of those involved. As an advocate of bisexuality, let me offer here the following food for thought. If we only did the same with the arts of loving, the result would be a society where Eros, the force of love, is considered amicable. It would be a society where erotophilia is abundant, erotophobia scarce.[4] It would be, in short, a more loving, fun, and healthier society.

By comparison, one can easily get a measure of the damage incurred when the artistic aspect of love is neglected. Let’s pretend for a moment to apply to hunger the same monosexual, monogamous rules currently in use for sexuality. What if “experts” about that particular appetite prescribed the same food, cooked in the same style, every time one eats, “until death does one part” from life? How healthy, how loving, would that prescription be? And, would anybody even mind “parting”? Yet, when exclusivity is expected of sexual partners in both gender and number, that’s exactly what’s being asked! Take “fast food” for example. The “fast food” industry can be described as a response to hunger notoriously devoid of art. Fast food tends to encourage what may be termed “monovore” behavior because it is purely functional. Its dangers to the health and happiness of anyone have been recently documented in Super Size Me, a testimonial film about how one can gain 25 pounds in a month from an exclusive diet of Big Macs, plus various conditions leading to obesity, depression, and heart attacks. Let me propose for a moment that exclusivity in the practice of love could be just as damaging. If we can entertain that hypothesis, there is a big role to play for bisexuality. As a portal to a world beyond the homo/hetero divide, bisexuality can produce a culture that breaks away from gender binaries and welcomes erotic love again as a positive energy in human life.

The challenge is proving this in the current erotophobic cultural climate. A quick survey of the kind of research on bisexuality that has taken hold in academe in the AIDS era shows that male bisexuality appears mainly in relation to some impending danger, and often in the context of staving off criminalizing attitudes in the medical and other service professions.[5] Despite good intentions, the results are dubious. They seem to perpetuate prevailing myths. One title sounds especially lurid “Secret Encounters: Black Men, Bisexuality, and AIDS in Alabama” (Lichtenstein 1993). The Journal of Bisexuality has countervailed this, but have its voices been heard outside of bi circles?[6] Academe tends to provide a secular counterpoint to illiberal impulses from less culturally aware sectors of society, in a mainstream that can be easily manipulated through the media. A bevy of more current sources on sex-positive cultures is now available from respected scholars who, by their own admission, appreciate these cultures. They concur in indicating that early third-millennium societies are deeply divided about what sex is, what should be known about it, who should have it, where, when, and with whom.[7] The rift seems to be between circles where secular values prevail, and social groups organized around institutionalized styles of religion where fundamentalist fears have had their way.

Secular people today are much more familiar with styles of erotic expression beyond heteronormativity than when I was a kid, in the early 1960s. In many secular communities, erotophilia has expanded to embrace gay, lesbian, bi, trans, poly, pan, omni, gothic, BDSM, metro, eco, and many other labels people use to describe their styles of sexual expression. Free form spirituality, tantra, naturism, paganism, and swinging are also fairly erotophilic. However, erotophobia has also become extreme (Klein 2006). While in secular circles the AIDS crisis has promoted more awareness of sexual diversity, the same crisis has been manipulated by conservative political forces to wage what civil rights activist Marty Klein calls a full-fledged “war on sex” (Klein 2006). Can this war be won? Not as long as “Eros,” the energy of love, is what makes our hostess planet Gaia alive. Yet the rift is serious and bisexuality seems to fall through the cracks. When bisexuality becomes the location of aberrant desire in both mainstream public discourse and LGBT institutions, the artistic quality of love becomes invisible and the homo/hetero divide reigns supreme. If proactive research can undo this positioning, we can get a sense of how practicing love beyond gender can promote health in human communities. With renewed attention to the artistic quality of love, a holistic notion of sexual health can be articulated too.

[1] McLelland, in this volume.

[2] Ripley, and Anderson, in this volume.

[3] The idea that love is an art is not new. My main sources are Ovid (1957), from antiquity, and Fromm (1956), from the Frankfurt School. It’s a subtext in many other works too. The good thing about this idea is that it implies that love can be taught and one’s talents make one a good student.

[4] My main source on erotophobia is Ince, 2003. Erotophilia was discussed at the conference in relation to in-progress AIB research. The word comes from Eros, the name of the Greek god of love.

[5] Examples include Lever and Kanouse 1992, Lichtenstein 2000, Stokes and McKirnan 1993.

[6] My main sources are Worth (2003) and Miller (2002).

[7] My sources on this rift include Druckerman 2007, Ley 2009, Barash and Lipton 2001, Ince 2003, and Levine 2003.

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BiReCon | 28 BiCon | 10 ICB

Bisexuality Research Conference, 28th Bisexuality Conference, 10th International Conference on Bisexuality, London, UK, August 26-30, 2010

BiReCon Proceedings: A forthcoming issue of The Journal of Bisexuality

Friday, February 4, 2011

2 of 9: Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving

"Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving"

BiReCon: Selected Proceedings from the 2010 Int'l Bisexual Research Conference

Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio, PhD, Keynote Speaker

Part 1 - Preamble: Manifesting Bisexuality

It was a pleasure and a privilege to be invited to give a keynote address at BiReCon. As a scholar of bisexuality who comes from the arts and humanities, and as an author who, admittedly, lives her life as an experiment in traversing sexual cultures, I had been waiting for this conference to happen. I had been wishing and rooting for it. I had been wondering what was keeping it from happening--was anything wrong in the Bi movement? When the invitation came I was overjoyed. It took me a while to secure travel funds and confirm acceptance. Thanks to Meg Barker, Christina Richards, Regina Reinhardt and others at the American Institute of Bisexuality for making that trip possible. I prepared to speak of bisexuality as a portal to a world where Eros, the energy of love, is recognized as the force that makes Gaia, the third planet, alive.[1] My summer plans got organized around the BiReCon/BiCon appointment in London, UK, beginning August 26^th, 2010.

As I said, my intention in giving the address was that of presenting bisexuality as a portal to a world of amorous sensibilities beyond the homo/hetero divide. I consider sexuality the cultural construct of Western modernity that organizes love as a need or an instinct. I find this to be reductionist. Love is of course a need and an instinct. But it’s also, and perhaps most importantly at this time, an art. The art of loving is what makes all styles of amorous expression fun, playful, and amusing, including hugging, cuddling, spooning, playing with toys, leather and Jacuzzis, gender-bending, sporting sexy outfits, swinging, threesomes, tantric breathing, and a bunch of other activities that are consensual, inventive, spontaneous, romantic, exciting, intimate, and humorous. These activities keep artists of love in balance with the amorous communities in which they participate. The art of loving, in my view, is inspired by the energy of Eros that infuses Gaia with life. Hence my title: “Gaia and the New Politics of Love: Notes for a BI Planet,” which almost coincides with the title of my latest book. Gaia, for the web of life that sustains our species on the third planet; the New Politics of Love, that places love, the source of life, at the new center of the political stage; all of which bodes well for a Planet that’s getting BI, with useful Notes provided toward that process.

According to Gaia science, the web of life that sustains our species on the third planet is interconnected. Our first ancestors, bacteria, are four billion years old. They have sex with their neighbors to rejuvenate themselves--regardless of gender or reproduction—and to exchange genes. As artists of love, their behavior is—to say the least—orgiastic. Yet it has been evolutionarily rewarded! We humans, the “new kids on the block” among earthly species, have been at war with Gaia now for quite a while--which has resulted in climate change and other assorted environmental disasters. We could be extinct tomorrow while bacteria are still around.[2] Why? There is one simple explanation: Unlike humans, bacteria, our most resilient ancestors, allow the energy of Eros to circulate among them free of needless fears. Gaia is blue, and green, and white. It teems with life. Without our ancestors, it would be as brownish as its neighbors Mars and Venus: A rock where nothing moves. Given this scientific perspective, there is no reason why human bisexuality should not be the most natural, the healthiest thing on the planet.

So the idea of a portal seemed fine. It would open new horizons. It would resonate with the work of Robyn Ochs, another keynote speaker, whose book, Getting Bi, registers voices of bi people across the planet. Yet it felt a bit off and perhaps not quite in tune with what was out there in the melee of early third-millennium bisexual life. After all, I came out in the early 1990s, I’ve organized my personal and professional life largely around bisexuality, and I’ve had plenty of time to select extraneous influxes out of it. Attendance in BiReCon and BiCon combined provided a unique standpoint to get the pulse of where bisexuality is at in a variety of geo-cultural locations and from the multiple perspectives of research, scholarship, theory, creative expression, advocacy, and community building. (For insights on those dynamics I refer readers to “BiReCon,” in this volume, a contribution by the organizers.) The context was perfect for producing knowledge in action. At the time of this writing, I’ve had a chance to reflect on my own keynote remarks, on the experience of participating in the two events combined, and the process of creating the present volume from contributions thereof. I choose this as an opportunity to offer the wisdom of what I learned in the process, along with a written elaboration of my keynote remarks.

[1] Gaia is the ancient Greek name for the Earth/fertility goddess central to the matrifocal civilizations of the Neolithic (Gimbutas 1989, 2001). Thanks to James Lovelock and Gore Vidal, it is now also used in science (1979, 1988).

[2] My sources in Gaia science are Margulis and Sagan, 1991 and 1997. Their work as a team shines a significant light on the connections between sexuality, symbiosis, and the evolution of life from bacteria to humans. It falls within the aegis of Gaia theory, respected yet still controversial in many scientific circles. I also refer to my own work (2009), and to Lovelock’s classics (1979, 1988, 2001, 2006).

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BiReCon | 28 BiCon | 10 ICB

Bisexuality Research Conference, 28th Bisexuality Conference, 10th International Conference on Bisexuality, London, UK, August 26-30, 2010

BiReCon Proceedings: A forthcoming issue of The Journal of Bisexuality

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

1 of 9: Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving

"Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving"

BiReCon: Selected Proceedings from the 2010 Int'l Bisexual Research Conference

Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio, PhD, Keynote Speaker

Abstract

This article presents bisexuality as a portal to the arts of loving where Eros, the energy of love, is recognized as what makes Gaia, the third planet Earth, alive. It is a reflection on the author’s experience as a keynote speaker at BiReCon, and as a participant in both BiReCon and BiCon.[1] The article is organized into three sections. The “Preamble” muses about how bisexuality manifests today, the current status of the bisexual movement, and how bisexuals (bis) are positioned within LGBT communities, their institutions, and in mainstream society. In this first section the author reflects upon her experience at the events. “Addressing the Audience” is a rendition of her actual keynote address. This second section focuses on why it’s key at this time to see bisexuality as a portal to a world that is more eco-friendly and erotophile. By way of Annie Sprinkle’s evolving work, the section establishes continuity between bisexuality and ecosexuality. The author also uses her own experience of bisexual erasure at the French libertine resort of Cap d’Agde in order to encourage more research and education about bisexuality and the multiple contexts where it manifests. The address also invites readers to imagine the world behind this portal, where a paradigm shift has already occurred. Love is considered an art, Gaia is recognized as the “gay” planet, the homo/hetero divide has disappeared, and the energy of Eros circulates beyond socially constructed binaries. The third section or “Conclusion” suggests ways to initiate this shift by considering “organic bisexuality” and “holistic sexual health.”

Keywords

Eros, Gaia, bisexuality, ecosexuality, erotophilia, gay planet, art of love, Annie Sprinkle, Cap d’Agde, bisexual men and women, organic bisexuality, holistic sexual health

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BiReCon | 28 BiCon | 10 ICB

Bisexuality Research Conference, 28th Bisexuality Conference, 10th International Conference on Bisexuality, London, UK, August 26-30, 2010

BiReCon Proceedings: A forthcoming issue of The Journal of Bisexuality

[1] BiReCon: Bisexuality Research Conference, BiCon: Bisexuality Conference: 10 ICB: Tenth International Conference about Bisexuality. These three events took place at the University of East London, Dockland Campus, on August 26-30, 2010, in a coordinated, almost simultaneous way, with BiReCon on opening day, the 26^th.

Monday, January 31, 2011

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Alcune delle questioni che intendiamo affrontare includono:

Come può una sensualità consapevole migliorare le proprie relazioni sessuali e agire come forza di pace e giustizia nel mondo? Come possiamo pienamente apprezzare e sviluppare i nostri diversi talenti per l’amore e l’espressione? È possible vivere in uno stato di maggiore intimità (non necessariamente di tipo sessuale) con un’intera comunità invece che solamente con un’altra persona? Che ruolo può avere nello sviluppo personale e globale una rete espansa di amicizie amorose che condividono questi desideri? Come possiamo soddisfare le nostre necessità di contatto e intimità anche in relazioni che non siano sessuali? Come possiamo dar sfogo alle nostre emozioni ed esprimere la nostra verità personale in modo da rafforzare la fiducia, costruire rapporto, e creare comunità?

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Robert Silber, M.S, LMT: Since entering the realm of conscious sensuality, he has studied and taught with the Network for New Culture, One Taste, Essensual Evolution (co-founder), and worked with many sacred sexuality and tantra teachers. He practices ashtanga yoga, is a licensed massage therapist, and loves to give massage incorporating the elements of lomi lomi, thai, cranial sacral and pelvic release techniques in a process that is deeply empowering and transformative. He also provides conscious sensuality coaching via phone/email/in person.

He is a nature lover, master gardener, and was appointed by Robert Kennedy, Jr. as a Riverkeeper. He has worked in the fields of environmental activism, political organizing with Sierra Club, is a certified permaculture designer and co-founded an intentional community and environmental education center in Hawai’i.

He brings these two aspects together in the Kipuka Temple Community, where he has provided a framework of sensual living involving beautiful spaces, permaculture gardens, sustainable living, spiritual cultivation, and perhaps most importantly - a community grounded in conscious communication and intimacy building.

From this location, Robert travels to the mainland and internationally to lead workshops and events. He is currently finishing a book on conscious sensuality, community and sustainability.

Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio, PhD, is a writer, professor, leader, healer, and activist in the paradigm shift toward a Gaian future where humanity makes peace with our hostess planet. She is a successful coach and workshop leader working on polyamory and bisexuality issues. She believes that the Sacred Sex Movement, the Global Ecology Movement and the Holistic Health Movement are part of this paradigm shift. She is currently active in the global Polyamory, Bisexuality, Ecosexuality, and AIDS Dissidence movements and communities. Her latest book, Gaia & the New Politics of Love: Notes for a Poly Planet, was released in September 2009, from North Atlantic Books, Berkeley. It is now available digitally in Kindle edition, and is a Silver Winner in Cosmology and New Science for the Nautilus Book Awards. Serena is a world class keynote speaker and workshop leader who has presented in California, Washington State, New England, the United Kingdom, and Greece. She also coaches clients on ecosexuality and relatedness issues.

Serena offers coaching sessions to participants interested in healthy, sustainable inclusive relationships.

Robert offers conscious sensuality sessions to interested participants.

Sunday, January 30, 2011

Polyamour | Toward a New Sexual Love Ethic - by Tinamarie Bernard

It is so great to hear Tinamarie Bernard, a muse of love in modern times, be moved by Deborah Taj Anapol to think of her own self as polyamorous. Yes, Tinamarie, we all have something to learn from Taj's wisdom.

"Polyamour | Toward a New Sexual Love Ethic"

A review of Polyamory in the 21st Century by Tinamarie Bernard

"When one is young, the idea of a real and abiding love tends to resemble a fairy tale, and there is little room in the predictable lines of a storybook romance for the messy truths that adults sometimes find themselves in. That is because love, by its very nature, surprises. It thrills and moves us in ways unimaginable, and sometimes that means our heart is tugged in two directions; without any mal-intent, it pulses to the melancholic pop melody, ‘torn between two lovers, feeling like a fool…”

Once upon a time, I might have misjudged a person in this predicament as suffering a lack of moral fortitude (the lothario, the tart…must have fallen out of the cheatin’ tree and hit every branch). But that was before musing over modern love and the provocative words of Deborah Anapol, PhD, author of Polyamory in the 21st Century: Love and Intimacy with Multiple Partners (2010).

Her insights have wrecked my notions of sexual ethics and classifications. If I had to identify myself – and the more I explore sexuality, the more I find them restrictive, problematic and injurious, but for the purposes of this contemplation will offer it up – I’d describe myself as a monogamous and heterosexual woman. I believe in soul mates, long-term committed love and marriage, and practiced serial monogamy my whole adult life.

Thanks to Deborah, I may also be polyamorous."

Read the complete article on Modern Love Muse, Tinamarie's blog.