Workshop 1 - Compersion: The Spirit of Polyamory
In the wisdom of love, we understand that the arts of loving can save Gaia, the live planet, because they are part of the arts of healing. A key concept in these arts is compersion, which comes from polyamory and is often understood as 'the opposite of jealousy.' Compersion is the joy of sharing the amorous resources that bless our lives. It is the bliss of witnessing the love our partners receive from others than ourselves. Jealousy often registers as a humiliating emotion. How can this emotion transform into joy? The 2 1/2 hour workshop is designed to teach this transformation in a series of small-group exercises that impact our inner and outer landscapes. Compersion, the spirit of polyamory, is a vibration that animates our bodies with joy and participation, once we become familiar with the bioenergetics of this inclusive, liberating emotion.
Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio, PhD, is a professor of humanities at the University of Puerto Rico, Mayaguez. She is the author of Eros: A Journey of Multiple Loves, and the editor of numerous collections. She teaches courses, workshops, and seminars on the practice of love and the science of Gaia.
Scheduled for July 8, 2010, in Bellingham, WA
Contact: Laya Shriaberg, laya@spiralsun.com
Sunday, December 12, 2010
Workshop 2 - Fluid Bonding and the Health/Safety of Erotic Communities
Workshop 2 - Fluid Bonding and the Health/Safety of Erotic Communities
This workshop discusses how changes to fluid-bonding agreements can impact individuals in an erotic community, the community’s notification and negotiation processes, screening protocols, and reactions to disease outbreaks and breaches in agreement. A general introduction to the topic will be followed by open discussion, with a few anecdotes to break the ice if necessary.
Why is the practice of safer sex important to an erotic community?
The protection of each participant is proportional to the health of the community. In practicing safer sex, a participant in an erotic community protects other participants from pathogens that might be inadvertently stored in this participant’s body. Physical safety is conducive of emotional safety too.
Fluid-bonding is the practice of exchanging deep and not-so-deep body fluids with sexual and erotic partners, and the emotional bonding that this implies. On the pair level, fluid bonding can be viewed as a trading of risk for pleasure and intimacy. In a given erotic community, it is more complicated; there are implications, both positive and negative, to each participant and to the community as a whole. In general, one might say that fluid bonding contributes to the health of a community to the extent that it is based on rules that are defined quite explicitly and followed quite closely.
Workshop Design by Serena Anderlini and Murray Schechter
This workshop discusses how changes to fluid-bonding agreements can impact individuals in an erotic community, the community’s notification and negotiation processes, screening protocols, and reactions to disease outbreaks and breaches in agreement. A general introduction to the topic will be followed by open discussion, with a few anecdotes to break the ice if necessary.
Why is the practice of safer sex important to an erotic community?
The protection of each participant is proportional to the health of the community. In practicing safer sex, a participant in an erotic community protects other participants from pathogens that might be inadvertently stored in this participant’s body. Physical safety is conducive of emotional safety too.
Fluid-bonding is the practice of exchanging deep and not-so-deep body fluids with sexual and erotic partners, and the emotional bonding that this implies. On the pair level, fluid bonding can be viewed as a trading of risk for pleasure and intimacy. In a given erotic community, it is more complicated; there are implications, both positive and negative, to each participant and to the community as a whole. In general, one might say that fluid bonding contributes to the health of a community to the extent that it is based on rules that are defined quite explicitly and followed quite closely.
Workshop Design by Serena Anderlini and Murray Schechter
Workshop 3 - The Pleasure of the Other: Becoming a Resource for Love
Workshop 3 - The Pleasure of the Other: Becoming a Resource for Love
The ecstasy our lovers feel is proportional to our ability to experience it as our own pleasure. When we get to access this experience our education in the arts of loving can be considered complete. As artists of love, we will be the source of erotic ecstasy for our lovers in such sublime communion that the pleasure of the other will become our own.
As a principle of erotic/ecstatic communion, the pleasure of the other is not new. We can read about it in Sappho, Ovid, Veronica Franco, Giacomo Casanova, and others whose love lives have been celebrated in literature. But how can we learn to generate this pleasure in our own love lives? This workshop is designed to provide access to this experience.
The exercise intends to initiate participants in the practice of forming a pleasure team and receiving pleasure from multiple sources. It can be done in a conventional or clothing-optional environment. Participants form groups of 5 to 7 people and sit on the floor in a circle. One participant volunteers to be the ‘pleasure emitter,’ the others form the ‘pleasure team.’ The ‘pleasure emitter’ lies down at the center while members of the ‘pleasure team’ sit around in a circle. Boundaries are set as to what areas of the ‘pleasure emitter’s’ body are open for receiving pleasure and what areas are off limits. The pleasure team begins to focus on pleasuring the emitter. Members will stay tuned into each other and listen for signs of pleasure from the emitter. The emitter will express pleasure with words, moans, and body movements. These will reverberate as feed back with the team whose members will enhance the pleasure as they respond to the expressions of the emitter.
The exercise can be repeated as many times as there are volunteer pleasure emitters in the group. Each round lasts about 10-15 minutes. After two or three rounds, the group will discuss the experience. Participants will share about what it felt like to be in either position and why. What did participants learn about pleasure? Is the pleasure of the other better than our own?
A group hug can be used as a closing ritual.
A workshop designed by Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD
The ecstasy our lovers feel is proportional to our ability to experience it as our own pleasure. When we get to access this experience our education in the arts of loving can be considered complete. As artists of love, we will be the source of erotic ecstasy for our lovers in such sublime communion that the pleasure of the other will become our own.
As a principle of erotic/ecstatic communion, the pleasure of the other is not new. We can read about it in Sappho, Ovid, Veronica Franco, Giacomo Casanova, and others whose love lives have been celebrated in literature. But how can we learn to generate this pleasure in our own love lives? This workshop is designed to provide access to this experience.
The exercise intends to initiate participants in the practice of forming a pleasure team and receiving pleasure from multiple sources. It can be done in a conventional or clothing-optional environment. Participants form groups of 5 to 7 people and sit on the floor in a circle. One participant volunteers to be the ‘pleasure emitter,’ the others form the ‘pleasure team.’ The ‘pleasure emitter’ lies down at the center while members of the ‘pleasure team’ sit around in a circle. Boundaries are set as to what areas of the ‘pleasure emitter’s’ body are open for receiving pleasure and what areas are off limits. The pleasure team begins to focus on pleasuring the emitter. Members will stay tuned into each other and listen for signs of pleasure from the emitter. The emitter will express pleasure with words, moans, and body movements. These will reverberate as feed back with the team whose members will enhance the pleasure as they respond to the expressions of the emitter.
The exercise can be repeated as many times as there are volunteer pleasure emitters in the group. Each round lasts about 10-15 minutes. After two or three rounds, the group will discuss the experience. Participants will share about what it felt like to be in either position and why. What did participants learn about pleasure? Is the pleasure of the other better than our own?
A group hug can be used as a closing ritual.
A workshop designed by Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD
Workshop 4 - Flogassage: The Bioenergetics of Multiple Loves
Workshop 4 - Flogassage: The Bioenergetics of Multiple Loves
Learning the Arts of Loving with Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio
This workshop combines small group massage and mild flogging to convey the bio-energetic experience of polyamory compersion, tantric energy and kundalini, and love for the person.
Compersion is the ability to share love among three or more people. Practicing compersion helps to transmute jealousy into the joy and elation of being present to multiple loves, to give up exclusivity, and to express pleasure and ecstasy (or being the “pleasure emitter” in a multipartnering situation
Tantric Energy & Kundalini are modes of amorous expression that enable one to give, receive, store, and transmute erotic energy throughout the body and the chakra system. These modes are often experienced indirectly. In this workshop we focus on the back side of the body as a place to store and transmute these energies.
Love for the person is the ability to love someone independently of their gender and sexual orientation. Many experienced bisexuals practice this kind of love. In this workshop we focus on changing roles within a small group, exchanging erotic energy with diverse participants, adjusting degrees of participation, and experiencing full-body erotic pleasure, to convey the experience of loving the person.
"I was fortunate to attend a flogassage organized by Serena. It was not on the agenda for the weekend, but was one of the highlights of my experience. Serena expertly set the mood and our expectations, then smoothly guided us through hours of sensual touch experiences unlike anything I had ever experienced before. She is truly gifted," said Michael from Massachusetts.
Notes:
This workshop is open to everyone over 18.
It is especially recommended for massage therapists and other kinds of holistic healers interested in exploring the sensual aspects of the healing arts.
The workshop will be held in a clothing optional environment.
Participation in the exercises is based on consent. Graded levels of participation are encouraged.
Learning the Arts of Loving with Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio
This workshop combines small group massage and mild flogging to convey the bio-energetic experience of polyamory compersion, tantric energy and kundalini, and love for the person.
Compersion is the ability to share love among three or more people. Practicing compersion helps to transmute jealousy into the joy and elation of being present to multiple loves, to give up exclusivity, and to express pleasure and ecstasy (or being the “pleasure emitter” in a multipartnering situation
Tantric Energy & Kundalini are modes of amorous expression that enable one to give, receive, store, and transmute erotic energy throughout the body and the chakra system. These modes are often experienced indirectly. In this workshop we focus on the back side of the body as a place to store and transmute these energies.
Love for the person is the ability to love someone independently of their gender and sexual orientation. Many experienced bisexuals practice this kind of love. In this workshop we focus on changing roles within a small group, exchanging erotic energy with diverse participants, adjusting degrees of participation, and experiencing full-body erotic pleasure, to convey the experience of loving the person.
"I was fortunate to attend a flogassage organized by Serena. It was not on the agenda for the weekend, but was one of the highlights of my experience. Serena expertly set the mood and our expectations, then smoothly guided us through hours of sensual touch experiences unlike anything I had ever experienced before. She is truly gifted," said Michael from Massachusetts.
Notes:
This workshop is open to everyone over 18.
It is especially recommended for massage therapists and other kinds of holistic healers interested in exploring the sensual aspects of the healing arts.
The workshop will be held in a clothing optional environment.
Participation in the exercises is based on consent. Graded levels of participation are encouraged.
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Workshop 5 - Bisexuality, Self-Knowledge, and Eros
Workshop
Bisexuality, Self-Knowledge, and Eros
This workshop is designed to assist participants in becoming more aware of how bisexual cultures and lovestyles complement and integrate with Polyamory.
We open with a short poem about bisexuality by nonetheless that William Shakespeare. "Two loves I have," from Sonnet 144. There is nothing new to bisexuality or Polyamory, since even the bard practiced them . . .We continue with definitions and historical perspectives about the bisexual movement, especially in the late 20th century, with a special reference to the work of the late Fritz Klein, from a psychoanalytical perspective, and Lani Kaahumanu and Loraine Hutchins, from a cultural and earth-centered perspective. Participants will be invited to share in small groups about bisexual dreams, wishes, fantasies, and experiences.
Next will be a practical exercise based on the Klein Grid, a bi version of the Kinsley Scale. Participants will be invited to place themselves on this grid. Then they will mix and mingle while they ask questions of each other as to where they best fit, so that in the end everyone will stand on the floor in correspondence to their place on the grid, to everyone’s amusement! 
Bisexuality is largely in the mind of the beholder. Participants will play the roles of givers and receivers in small groups. The messages will be expressed via soft touch and/or flirtatious gazing. The givers will keep their intention secret, and the receiver will be invited to guess as to what that is. In many cases, a non-sexual intention will be interpreted as sexual, and vice versa, to the amusement of all.Tuesday, December 7, 2010
Giving Ecosexual Thanks on the Day of Accion de Gracias
Oh well, you must have been wondering why we rushed to post this video without the slightest comment. It's so cute! It's really about persona, private life here in Western Puerto Rico, and how we really make it nice and cozy with our close friends. There is a certain intimacy that comes with living on an island where almost everyone knows after a bit. Here we are with our friends David and Javier in Ponce, ciudad senoral, which actually means town of distinguished, well-to-do people, and it really is, with its large avenues and southern tranquility. They invited us for a vegetarian Tanksgiving dinner, can you imagine: no turkey! They had prepared the most exquisite meal, served on the indoor patio on a cool evening. How cheerful!
We are so late posting comments to this because we were involved in a tech upgrade which turned out to be very efficient but made things a bit confused during the transition. Yours truly had been told that her computer skills and multiple systems deserved a Mac. And she got it! Oh technology, let me be slave to Thee! It is a good system and we are enjoying its efficiency.
Thanks to all the geeks who suggested the switch!
And a belated Buen Dia de Accion de Gracias to you!
We are so late posting comments to this because we were involved in a tech upgrade which turned out to be very efficient but made things a bit confused during the transition. Yours truly had been told that her computer skills and multiple systems deserved a Mac. And she got it! Oh technology, let me be slave to Thee! It is a good system and we are enjoying its efficiency.
Thanks to all the geeks who suggested the switch!
And a belated Buen Dia de Accion de Gracias to you!
Monday, October 11, 2010
3WayKiss October Calendar - Los Angeles: 16th, 19th, 23-24th - Redeem GoK Rewards
Dear Everyone,
--23-24th Weekend with Annie Sprinkle and Beth Stephens
--19th Tuesday with Leanna Wolfe
--16-17th Weekend with SaRina and Robert Silber
Scroll down for details!
As announced, yours truly will keynote at the world's first Ecosex Symposium, to be
held Sun., the 24th, 3 to 6 PM, at the Highways Performance Space, 165118th St, Santa Monica, CA, 90404. This unique event brings together ecosexuals from the world over to kickstart the ecosexual movement. The event is organized by Moon brides and Eco-Sex Bi-o-neers Annie Sprinkle, PhD, and Beth Stephens, UCSC. As for yours truly, she'll be talking about "Gaia, the third planet, amorous hostess to many lovely species, sexy mother and lover too!" The Symposium is moderated by adult film director Veronica Heart, with relationship coach Deborah Taj Anapol, PhD, and sexologist Carol Queen, PhD, among many fabulous speakers.
The artist brides will be HoneyMOONing from a Purple Wedding to Gaia's lovely satellite, the Moon, to be celebrated on Sat, the 23rd, 6-9:30 PM, at the Farnsworth Park Amphitheater in Altadena. The Wedding will be officiated by performance artist Reverend Billy of the Church of Life After Shopping. Yours truly, duly dressed in Purple, will announce the Symposium as a homage to Gaia's hyper-generous hospitality to our unruly species.
The Symposium is meant to be "a public forum where art meets theory meets sex education meets practice," artist brides Annie and Beth declare. As hundreds of ecosexuals are heading toward Los Angeles for this very special weekend, yours truly invites you to join this heady lot and help spearhead the movement. What could be more exciting than marrying an astral body and consuming the honeymoon with a whole bunch of ecosexual people?
For more on this weekend check out our Press Releases!
--Tuesday, October 19th, 7:30 PM.
We at 3WayKiss are delighted to bring a fabulous October Calendar of Events to you! We also wish to send our very very special thanks to all participants in the 9/26th Big-Push! That made a VERY big difference, with Gaia pushed to the top of the list for at least two subspecialties in Kindle Store, and staying there as we speak! Plus it sparkled a whole new bunch of digital readers, an absolutely eco-sexy thing to do! From the deepest depths in our heart, thank you!
For October, yours truly has been called to the Los Angeles area for three
fabulous events we are happy to bring to you. We look forward to having you with us! Please have your Gaia on Kindle purchase receipt ready to claim your discount! Thank you!
October Calendar, in Reverse Order:
For October, yours truly has been called to the Los Angeles area for three
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October Calendar, in Reverse Order:
--23-24th Weekend with Annie Sprinkle and Beth Stephens
--19th Tuesday with Leanna Wolfe
--16-17th Weekend with SaRina and Robert Silber
Scroll down for details!
--October 23-24th Weekend--Ecosex Wedding plus Symposium HoneyMOON in the LA Area
As announced, yours truly will keynote at the world's first Ecosex Symposium, to be
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The artist brides will be HoneyMOONing from a Purple Wedding to Gaia's lovely satellite, the Moon, to be celebrated on Sat, the 23rd, 6-9:30 PM, at the Farnsworth Park Amphitheater in Altadena. The Wedding will be officiated by performance artist Reverend Billy of the Church of Life After Shopping. Yours truly, duly dressed in Purple, will announce the Symposium as a homage to Gaia's hyper-generous hospitality to our unruly species.
The Symposium is meant to be "a public forum where art meets theory meets sex education meets practice," artist brides Annie and Beth declare. As hundreds of ecosexuals are heading toward Los Angeles for this very special weekend, yours truly invites you to join this heady lot and help spearhead the movement. What could be more exciting than marrying an astral body and consuming the honeymoon with a whole bunch of ecosexual people?
For more on this weekend check out our Press Releases!
--Tuesday, October 19th, 7:30 PM.
Reading from seminal text of ecosexual theory, Gaia and the New Politics of Love
, at the Casa de Pensamiento Libre, for the Sex and Culture Lecture Series, hosted by Leanna Wolfe, 14923 Marlin Place, Van Nuys, CA, 91405. A fabulous series, check it out here. Discussion. Refreshments. Donation: $ 10 at door, does not include books. Yours truly will be delighted to sign copies while supplies last. Ask Leanna at 818 510 0225.
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--Weekend October 16-17:
Conscious Sensuality; Gaia at LuvHub: Sat., 16th, 7-9PM.
Experiencing Gaia at LuvHub. An extended evening program for all participants in Conscious Sensuality Weekend Intensive, with Robert Silber and SaRina Goode. 12712 Dewey St, Los Angeles (Santa Monica), CA, 90066. The workshop yours truly has been invited to lead focuses on witnessing the energy of love, holding space for the magic of it, experiencing the pleasure of the other, learnign about the arts of loving and about sharing resources of love. Gift yourself with the whole weekend and claim your discount as a Big Push-Up participant here.
We at 3WayKiss sincerely hope you'll choose to join us at ll times, at least in spirit. Please let us know if we can answer any questions or assist you in any way. We are a not-for-profit corporation based in Puerto Rico that intends to "educate the public about the arts of loving and their infinite forms of expression." Plese visit and find out all about our new and exciting Mission. You can also pledge your donation here. We are persuaded the events above will spearhead exciging new projects, and are extremely interested in exploring the connections between ecosex and the noosphere. We see Big Push-Up Day as an experiment in this line of thoiught. Two weeks into the process, we can tell it's interesting and will follow up with more data in due time.
The LA area is a beloved Matria of yours truly--a special land that has kindly hosted her at one point in her journey. How exciting to be there soon! Reconnecting to long-time friends from the region is a wonderful gift! Please don't hesitate to get in touch if you are one of them. With a full teaching schedule at the home institution, travel time is at a premium--the opportunity not to be missed!
With deep appreciation for your interest and business, we at 3WayKiss remain yours truly in devotion and ecosexual friendship.
Namaste,
Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio, PhD @ 3WayKiss
author of Gaia and the New Politics of Love, a Silver Winner
for Cosmology and New Science for the 2010 Nautilus Awards,
and many other fabulous books
Professor of Humanities
at the University of Puerto Rico, Mayaguez
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We at 3WayKiss sincerely hope you'll choose to join us at ll times, at least in spirit. Please let us know if we can answer any questions or assist you in any way. We are a not-for-profit corporation based in Puerto Rico that intends to "educate the public about the arts of loving and their infinite forms of expression." Plese visit and find out all about our new and exciting Mission. You can also pledge your donation here. We are persuaded the events above will spearhead exciging new projects, and are extremely interested in exploring the connections between ecosex and the noosphere. We see Big Push-Up Day as an experiment in this line of thoiught. Two weeks into the process, we can tell it's interesting and will follow up with more data in due time.
The LA area is a beloved Matria of yours truly--a special land that has kindly hosted her at one point in her journey. How exciting to be there soon! Reconnecting to long-time friends from the region is a wonderful gift! Please don't hesitate to get in touch if you are one of them. With a full teaching schedule at the home institution, travel time is at a premium--the opportunity not to be missed!
With deep appreciation for your interest and business, we at 3WayKiss remain yours truly in devotion and ecosexual friendship.
Namaste,
Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio, PhD @ 3WayKiss
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| Click image for Gaia on Kindle |
author of Gaia and the New Politics of Love, a Silver Winner
for Cosmology and New Science for the 2010 Nautilus Awards,
and many other fabulous books
Professor of Humanities
at the University of Puerto Rico, Mayaguez
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