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Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Assuaging AIDS Fears: The Eco-Sexual Arts of Sharing Love

As an author and cultural analyst, I have touched on the topic of AIDS on several occasions, before Montagnier's interview and when the issue was really embattled.  I have also been publically attacked.  And certain venues have banned me.  Cultural interpretation is extremely important in all areas of knowledge, including medicine.  Now that more is becoming apparent about the multiple perspectives from which AIDS can be interpreted and why, it is time to pronounce myself in a clear and succinct position statement that will help others orient themselves in relation to what I know and where I stand.

In my observation, when science production is commodified for profit by the private interests of Big Pharma, what often happens is that most virologists become "of the virus party."  This literary expression implies that they may (inadvertently perhaps) start rooting for the viruses they are researching.  In this case, their commitment to put humans first and protect us from harm might slip to the back of their minds.  After all, if they can prove that the virus they study causes real harm, they may get the Nobel Prize.  This mindset is a betrayal of the Hippocratic oath that all medical scientists are sworn to, namely "first do no harm."  Why?  Because believing that one is ill can cause one to die.  Medicine CAN "do harm" and that's why the Hippocratic oath is still practiced.  In Greek, the word "pharmakon" means poison.  Next time you refill your meds, think about it.
(This theory is explained in "Of the Virus Party," a wide-ranging section of my book Gaia and the New Politics of Love.)

Jumping to conclusions about a putative pathogen can be good to a virologist's career. However, it is potentially harmful to humankind because human health is multifactorial and related to the emotional and physical ecology that surrounds human life. 

HIV testing is the first step on this path.  The reliability of the test has been seriously questioned on all counts.  Furthermore, anonymous testing has been banned in countries where health care is for profit and private.  It is allowed and encouraged in countries with universal heath-care systems that function well and are free of charge, including France, Italy, and many others.  It would appear that as long as science cannot cure a disease, for the protection of individuals against medical error and other abuses of power, anonymous testing should be allowed.  For those without access to anonymous testing in their home countries, self-test kits can be ordered from Switzerland for about $ 40.  They are very easy to use at home and quite reliable.  Confidential testing is only anonymous as long as there is no error or positive result.

Testing anonymously can help one feel better and safer.  It can help assuage fears for oneself, one's partners, and partners of partners.  As a person who's been med-free for over 25 years now, I have come to rely on meditation, nutrition, healthy emotional and physical environment, good connectedness with self, a fulfilling and diverse amorous life, and inner balance, rather than testing and chemical drugs.  Attributing excessive significance to testing is not wise since by and large one's health is proportional to the strength of one's immune system rather than absence of exposure to pathogens.  Erotic, amorous, sensual, and affectional expression are big factors in the health picture of everyone.

What I bring to this conversation is also my experience as participant observer in erotic communities where resources of love are shared--and therefore abundant--as in those that practice some form of polyamory and/or bisexuality.  People in these communities typically have sex with a limited number of partners, sometimes simultaneously and over an extended period of time.  Typically this happens with full disclosure for all involved, including disclosure of number of partners and their health status.

My wisdom is that in these contexts, some measure of safer sex is highly desirable.  We live in a time when the foundations upon which human knowledge is based are shifting.  Not surprisingly, people's different understandings of STDs are not aligned enough for everyone to feel safe and comfortable otherwise.  Plus, not all diseases known to the public have a standard cure.

There is a wide range of safer-sex practices, referring, in general, to superficial body fluids, like saliva, and deep body fluids, like sperm, female ejaculate, and blood.  Safer sex practices can vary.  Complete safety typically implies dry kissing, barriers in oral sex, and condoms in penetration.  Deep-fluid only safety is also practiced, involving condoms for penetration.  These two different levels of safety can be practiced by the same person with different partners, with the second one typically for more intimate and long-term partners.  The practice of fluid bonding is reserved for partners with deep emotional bonding and trust.  Changing levels of safety involves acceptance of such change from other involved partners.
(Some of the difficulties in educating oneself and others about these practices over several world regions are narrated in my memoir, Eros: A Journey of Multiple Loves.)

These are articulate degrees of protection.  My experience is that they help to preserve the health and safety of a given erotic community, in which different people have different degrees of vulnerability, with--as a general tenet--more medication more vulnerability.

Some members of these erotic communities may be HIV positive, with the knowledge of their partners and respect for appropriate regimens of safety.

Perhaps when more is known about AIDS in a verifiable, scientifically concordant manner, some of these rules may change.  Other STDs participants tend to be wary of are Genital Herpes and Warts.  By and large, my observation is that in these communities health is proportional to good nutrition, exercise, environment, low stress level, freedom, joy, and variety in erotic, sensual, and sexual expression--not to mention meditation, yoga, and other restorative activities.  It really has nothing to do with number of partners, gender of partners, frequency of sexual activity, or HIV status. 
(For readers with more curiosity about how my views have been attacked and how I interpret the genesis of AIDS in relation to cultural fears of anal pleasure, I refer to The G Tales, 1: What's in a Word? and 2: A Gut Feeling.)

My wish in expressing this pronouncement is to create more listening and understanding among all the different groups and agents that participate in cultural discourses of health, sexuality, and the arts of love.  We need interpretations of what constitutes health--including holistic sexual health--that reflect the experiences of those engaged in the practice of love.  My position is that when sexuality is practiced in ecological ways it is healthy.  This approach to AIDS tends to assuage fears and empower people to practice love.  This applies at the local and global level.

Living is and can only be safe in a world where it is safe to love.

For a live conversation with Reappraising AIDS activists, listen to my Interview with David Crowe and Celia Ferber in How Positive Are You?


Saturday, April 30, 2011

4 of 4 - Oh the Power of Ecosexual Poetry! - It's Not Called Labour for Nothing - Yemisi Ilesanmi

It’s not called labour for nothing!

Ouch, what is that kick
That makes me sick
Breaking in sweat
Oh mine, I am wet
Is that mucous
Oh just focus!
It’s coming, go get the doctor
Stop looking at the buttocks
Tis no time for old wives tales
For I am in pains and already pale

I am coming, I am coming, you screamed
Keep pushing, keep pushing now you screeched
Oh nurse, this hurts, please do something
It’s not yet time, she keeps snorting
Tis was sweet but now it’s a dilemma
Oh no try a push and a dilation
Those sweet contractions
Are now a contradiction
That leaves me frustrated
No longer besotted

Push, Push, you are all preaching
I am the one that is screeching
The baby must not come breeching
Oh what, I am bleeding!
Maybe I need an epidural
Or is this just procedural
Heavily I breathe
Now I seethe
Not cumming in ecstatic  orgasms
But pushing a human organism

Oh, I see a head
Quick I need a lead
Oh nurses stop laughing
Maybe try fawning
This isn’t funny
 I don’t feel sunny
This is no botox
Where is the doctor
I might need a suture
To give me succour

Oh dear, here comes my baby
All wet, slippery and bubbly
Beautiful as the morning dew
You have come to pay your due
Ha, tis looking for the boobs
Ready to start the smooch
In my arms tis nestled
All ready to suckle
I am ready to nurture
I guess tis in my nature

Tis suckling, You are rustled
Dad is rippling but bristled
Those boobs are mine alone
On my terms I give and loan
I do all the labour
You get all the flavour
Never again will I be pushed
This was agony I am flushed
I need science of equality to share
Our baby together we should bear

Mommy is that my sibling
Oh no, I must be blinking
Can’t afford to miss my periods
Cos things can get too serious
Little bump and grind and the baby pops
Now all I have is a pushing tot that sobs
But then I should know
One, two, three years now
I can see a rounded tommy
Ready again to be a mommy!

BY YEMISI ILESANMI 22 MARCH, 2011


Biographical Note
Yemisi Ilesanmi
Yemisi Ilesanmi is a trade union/human rights activist. She has a Masters of Law (LLM) on Gender, Sexuality and Human Rights from Keele University, Stadffordshire, UK and a Law degree(LLB) from Obafemi Awolowo University ile -Ife, Nigeria. She works with the Nigeria Labour Congress . She has served on many national and International labour/ human rights committees including as Vice president of the International Trade Union Confederation (ITUC) 2006-2009 and President of the ITUC Youth committee (2004-2009) 

Yemisi Ilesanmi is a passionate human rights activist, bisexual, atheist and an unpublished poet and budding writer. She is interested in and often make public presentations on gender issues, sexuality rights, workers rights, youth representation and environmental protection. She is commited to a world of peace where justice reigns supreme.

Text originally published as a Note on Facebook, republished here with permission.

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

3 of 4 - Oh the Power of Ecosexual Poetry! - I Am a Single Mother - Yemisi Ilesanmi

I am a Single Mother

I am a single mother
Proud like the other
I was a young mummy
Now wise and yummy
Yes I have a son
As bright as the sun
You say he needs a daddy
For him to be dandy
But I need no ring
To make me sing

I am a single mother
Sleek as the otter
I need no rows
To take the vows
I work and toil
But I don’t spoil
I spare the rod
But he is not rot
Sometimes I smack
Never leave a mark

I am a single mother
That is not a murder
So stop the blunders
Enough of your slanders
You need a man
Like your Nan
Soon you will sag
Funny how they nag
I really don’t know for what
Certainly not for my want!

I am a single mother
I am proud to utter
He has a father
Who is just farther
You should know
It takes Two
Not just a procreator
To be his creator
A baby a community can scold
It takes love a human to mould

I am a single mother
Stop your muttering
He is not a bastard
Don’t be a retard
He is not a furnace
For your social menace
He is not a barnacle
But a special miracle
Landing on your moon
To make you swoon

 I am a single mummy
Both sexy and yummy
 I can date, I will get a sitter
Don’t be late, I need no cheater
Just be ready  
To go steady
No drinking late
That leaves you stale
Three is a number
That leaves me somber

I am a single mother
That can go yonder
I am proud to mutter
That I am no nutter
My son praises I sing
For he is a gift I bring
I need no wedding ring
Not even a big bling
Get out of your cove
For it is time to love

BY YEMISI ILESANMI 19 March, 2011

Biographical Note
Yemisi Ilesanmi
Yemisi Ilesanmi is a trade union/human rights activist. She has a Masters of Law (LLM) on Gender, Sexuality and Human Rights from Keele University, Stadffordshire, UK and a Law degree(LLB) from Obafemi Awolowo University ile -Ife, Nigeria. She works with the Nigeria Labour Congress . She has served on many national and International labour/ human rights committees including as Vice president of the International Trade Union Confederation (ITUC) 2006-2009 and President of the ITUC Youth committee (2004-2009) 

Yemisi Ilesanmi is a passionate human rights activist, bisexual, atheist and an unpublished poet and budding writer. She is interested in and often make public presentations on gender issues, sexuality rights, workers rights, youth representation and environmental protection. She is commited to a world of peace where justice reigns supreme.

Text originally published as a Note on Facebook, republished here with permission.

Saturday, April 23, 2011

2 of 4 - Oh the Power of Ecosexual Poetry! - My Genderless Love - Yemisi Ilesanmi

MY GENDERLESS LOVE!

I don’t walk straight
Not even for the bait
 I am merry yet not gay
 I am bi and I can bay
 But saying goodbye
Is not my hallmark
Yet you all smack
Like I always play
Our goal is acceptance
Where is the tolerance

I am not gay enough
To be enfolded
Not sufficiently lesbian
To be embraced
Do I even talk Trans
Can’t brace the rants
You preach diversity
As community necessity
Yet you sneer
While I leer

When in the mall
Yes I want it all
With the dick
I play and lick
And the boobs
Makes me smooch
The big breasted
Leaves me besotted
With the hermaphrodite
I am a smitten Aphrodite

With the pussy
I get all fussy
The shaven sight
To suckle all night
The pert bums
Makes me bowl
The bouncy balls
I love to maul
With the Pecs
I need no specs

I am bisexual, not a player
So don’t make me a slayer
Like you I choose my partner
It is a natural attraction
And not just a selection
A sex you choose
My love I embrace
It matters not the gender
All I want is tenderness
For my love is genderless.

By Yemisi Ilesanmi 17 March, 2011


Biographical Note

Yemisi Ilesanmi
Yemisi Ilesanmi is a trade union/human rights activist. She has a Masters of Law (LLM) on Gender, Sexuality and Human Rights from Keele University, Stadffordshire, UK and a Law degree(LLB) from Obafemi Awolowo University ile -Ife, Nigeria. She works with the Nigeria Labour Congress . She has served on many national and International labour/ human rights committees including as Vice president of the International Trade Union Confederation (ITUC) 2006-2009 and President of the ITUC Youth committee (2004-2009) 

Yemisi Ilesanmi is a passionate human rights activist, bisexual, atheist and an unpublished poet and budding writer. She is interested in and often make public presentations on gender issues, sexuality rights, workers rights, youth representation and environmental protection. She is commited to a world of peace where justice reigns supreme.

Text originally published as a Note on Facebook, republished here with permission.


Wednesday, April 20, 2011

1 of 4 - Oh the Power of Ecosexual Poetry! - Mother Nature, My Explosive Lover - Yemisi Ilesanmi

Mother Nature, My explosive lover !

Mother Nature
Beautiful you are
You smile and I waver
You kiss and I quiver
Aroused by your touch
Fed by your smooch
Melting my heart
Twisting my feelings
Swinging my being
With your seduction
Warm in the embrace
Of your blazing love

Your magical fingers
The waves conjures
Your tsunamic orgasm
Blows high and mighty
Many cry and scream
As you explode in cum
Your volcanic temper
Leaves me high and dry
In the grip of your love
I gasp for breath
How long shall I drown
In your magical prowess
Making love drenched
Like there is no tomorrow

Oh your anger
I cannot bear
You huff and puff
And the roof goes off
You blow hot and cold
And up it all goes in flames
You bat your seismic eyelashes
And everywhere floods
You shake your bounty
And the earth quakes
With your waves
The wind bows
You move a disc
And everything falls
Licking at your walls

Is it vanity that gives you airs
To sail on howling hairs
Do you seek attention
Or is it my provocation
That gets you in a hoot
For I am guilty too
Bombs I blow
Tear gas I howl
Carbonized air I emit
To get you to submit
Blame it on my human nature
To plough, prod and tear apart
But you my love
I thought are above
My human frailties
In all your subtleties

Lovesick I worship
At your holy shrine
In awe of your majesty
I marvel at your beauty
But now you come wheezing
With many screaming
Sorrows, tears and blood
You leave flowing
In the wake of your howling

Do you in sadistic pleasure gloat
Seeing the disaster you float
Or are these disasters
A harrowing cry for help
Do you cower in the dark
Hoping for a hug
You I cannot but bug
Amidst the floating bodies
Do you hear the screams
Of your helpless victims
Children, old and young
Barely hanging on
Do you flinch?
As they cling?

I preach acceptance
My wish is tolerance
I accept diversity
As life's necesity
But how long shall I bear
The brunt of your anger
Or is it just who you are

Oh mother nature, my love
With your tears you let me know
You are neither a God nor a Goddess
But like me, just a mere creation
You and I are not perfect
My human caprice we will capture
Your wild nature we will nurture
I tame mine, we tame yours
You and I babe
Can be together
A lifetime longer.

Yemisi Ilesanmi
By Yemisi Ilesanmi 14 March, 2011

Biographical Note
Yemisi Ilesanmi is a trade union/human rights activist. She has a Masters of Law (LLM) on Gender, Sexuality and Human Rights from Keele University, Stadffordshire, UK and a Law degree(LLB) from Obafemi Awolowo University ile -Ife, Nigeria. She works with the Nigeria Labour Congress . She has served on many national and International labour/ human rights committees including as Vice president of the International Trade Union Confederation (ITUC) 2006-2009 and President of the ITUC Youth committee (2004-2009) 

Yemisi Ilesanmi is a passionate human rights activist, bisexual, atheist and an unpublished poet and budding writer. She is interested in and often make public presentations on gender issues, sexuality rights, workers rights, youth representation and environmental protection. She is committed to a world of peace where justice reigns supreme.

Text originally published as a Note on Facebook, republished here with permission.

Saturday, April 16, 2011

8 of 8 - BiTopia: Conclusion and Works Cited. Read Introduction to BiReCon 2010's Proceedings Volume


Bi ReConNaissance: Introduction to BiReCon

Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio

Conclusion

Last August at UEL a sense of hope and joy of coming together emanated from the mere simultaneous presence of so many bis with different interests, backgrounds and motivations for participating.  When BiCon 28, 10 ICB, and BiReCon converged, BiTopia came alive.  The sober walls of academe were made more spirited and effervescent by the concrete presence of such an imaginative congregation of folks from many countries, genders, queer subcultures, age groups, venues, and walks in life. 

The 26th was research day and at BiReCon one would find work that breaks new ground.  The research presented was informed and reliable yet wide-ranging enough to trade in paradigmatic issues.  It was free of media friendly sensationalism and ivory tower abstractions.  The very concept of bisexuality, with its multiple meanings and implications, offers a prism through which the semiotics that organize cultural constructions of love can be sorted out. The contents of that day have been elaborated into articles and organized in five clusters.  We are grateful to the authors who submitted to us and revised.  We hope to have orchestrated a volume that honors BiReCon’s momentous quality. 

In subsequent days, one would get a sense of the lore of bisexuality, how bi people like to dress, how they relate, what they talk about, the urban legends they trade.  Imaginativeness, creativity, playfulness, a certain taste for the odd, the eccentric, an inclination for the carnivalesque, the topsy-turvy, for the giggly excess, the performative, the subversive.  Different age groups met, who have experienced biphobia at different times and in different contexts, yet with the same sense that integration of perceived opposites is what dissipates the fears.  The festive atmosphere was traversed with a vibration that energized the intention to respond to the challenges that make bisexuality necessary as a transformative force for the new millennium.

Cabo Rojo, Puerto Rico, February 20th, 2011


Works Cited and Consulted

Anderlini-D’Onofrio, Serena.  Gaia and the New Politics of Love: Notes for a Poly Planet.  Berkeley: North Atlantic Books, 2009.
Anderlini-D’Onofrio, Serena, ed.  Plural Loves: Designs for Bi and Poly Living.  New York: Routledge, 2005. 
Cantarella, Eva.  Bisexuality in the Ancient World.  Yale University Press, 1992.  (Original title: Secondo natura, “according to nature”.)
Chedgzoy, Kate.  “Two Loves I Have: Shakespeare and Bisexuality.”  In Bi Academic Intervention Eds, The Bisexual Imaginary: Representation, Identity and Desire.  London: Cassell, 1997.
Garber, Marjorie.  Bisexuality and the Eroticism of Everyday Life.  New York: Routledge, 2000.
Margulis, Lynn and Dorion Sagan.  Microcosmos: Four Billion Years of Microbial Evolution.  University of California Press, 1997.
______  .  Mystery Dance: On the Evolution of Human Sexuality.  New York: Simon and Schuster, 1991.
Marshall, Nowell.  “Refusing Butler’s Binary: Bisexuality and Performative Melancolia in Mrs. Dalloway.”  In Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio and Jonathan Alexander Eds, Bisexuality and Queer Theory.  New York: Routledge, 2010. 
Storr, Merl. Bisexuality: A Critical Reader.  London: Routledge, 1999.
Wikipedia: Docklands: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/London_Docklands


Thanks for reading us.  We hope you have enjoyed.  Please leave a comment.  More exciting posts to follow on diverse topics in the near future!

Copyright and Prepublication Notice:
© Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio, transferred to Taylor & Francis for upcoming publication in BiReCon, a selected proceedings issue of the Journal of Bisexuality.  Prepublished here courtesy of T & F.  Stay tuned for volume and buy it online!

Read the Journal of Bisexuality online, the only peer-reviewed journal dedicated to the study of all aspects on bisexuality.   Check out our latest: a provocative special-topics issue on Bisexuality and Queer Theory!




Wednesday, April 13, 2011

7 of 8 - BiTopia: Bisexual Cultural Productions, Interpretations, Reflections. Read Introduction to BiReCon 2010's Proceedings Volume


Bi ReConNaissance: Introduction to BiReCon

Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio

Cluster 5.  Bisexual Cultural Productions, Interpretations, Reflections

The imagination is the realm of human life out of which new visions emanate, with their powerful reverberations across space and time.  The fifth cluster includes contributions that discuss cultural constructions and interpretations of bisexuality in the social media, film, drama, and future life.  These articles, and the sources they discuss, help us imagine how the world beyond the homo/hetero divide—this wide open world without binaries--would feel, look, read, and perform like. 

“Blogging Bisexuals” is a social-media article that registers the experiences of two bloggers and their respondents to examine the role of blogging in the bloggers’ coming out process.  Sue George is known to the public for her work on bisexuality.  She also draws on her own experience as a blogger in this article.  The blogosphere is a new realm of the imagination where love is signified.  Its virtual character makes it more open to unconventional expressions and impulses.  Its accessibility makes it a natural resource for “coming out” of one’s asphyxiating monosexual lifestyle.  The two cases discussed show how the blogosphere served the purpose in different circumstances.

In “Bisexuality in the Cinema,” B.C. Roberts analyzes Anglophone film criticism discourse about bisexuality as mapped by critics who identify as bisexual.  Robert reviews a vast array of secondary sources ranging over a fairly inclusive body of films with prominent bisexual tropes.  Her claim is that this discourse has been shaped by dominant strategies for representing bisexuality.  Roberts suggests a focus on the medium itself as a way to eschew this dominant bias. 

Plays By Shakespare, Painting by Sir John Gilbert
On a more hopeful note, Kaye McLelland proposes bisexual readings for a significant range of Shakespeare’s works, including plays and poems, in her multivoiced article, “Toward a Bisexual Shakespeare.”  This is the kind of article any formally trained drama critic who honestly studies bisexuality would like to publish.  Since my early days as an English major in my undergraduate career at the University of Sassari, Italy, I thought English literature was fabulous because its centerpiece, its cultural icon, was bi.  That’s what really got me to continue in that field and specialize in drama!  “Two loves I have” (# 144) is the sonnet I typically use to start off my workshops on bisexuality.  The Bard declares he loves a “man right fair” and a “woman coloured ill,” I reason--who in the wide world could doubt he’s bi? 

The "Bard"
But obviously, my reasoning does not take into account the dynamics involved in the construction of national literary canons.  What if English children found out at a tender age that a whole literary tradition is built on someone so “unpromotable” and “unreliable”?  That’s where McLelland’s article helps out.  The only reason why I can think so freely--I realize--is that I’m not a subject of the British Crown!  McLelland enters the fray of this highly charged discussion with a gentle yet firm touch.  She claims that bisexual readings of Shakespeare are realistic and plausible, with the added bonus of being--to bisexual readers--highly desirable.  From her discussion, one gathers that the complexity and depth of understanding of bisexuality in Shakespeare’s oeuvre is such that it requires one to revisit all the meanings of bisexuality as they evolved in the modern era and became interrelated in culture and language. 

Oberon, Titania, Puck, in Midsummer Night's Dream
In this article, we observe that as a side effect of the homo/hetero divide, Shakespeare has been monosexualized one way or the other.  McLelland’s discussion levels the playfield to where any actual bisexual interpretations of a specific work or set of works by the Bard will register as as legitimate as one based in any other sexual orientation.  When it comes to a cultural icon around which so much in the ways of maintaining the status quo is invested, that is to say a lot!  Last but not least, Hartmut Friedrichs’ “Politics Strategy: Bisexual or Queer” envisions transformative goals for bisexuality that affect a whole range of areas in human life, and discusses strategies that may be effective in timeframes ranging from the present to a whole century from now.



To be be continued: 8 of 8 - Conclusion.  Watch out for this exciting section in a few days!


Copyright and Prepublication Notice:
© Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio, transferred to Taylor & Francis for upcoming publication in BiReCon, a selected proceedings issue of the Journal of Bisexuality.  Prepublished here courtesy of T & F.  Stay tuned for volume and buy it online!

Read the Journal of Bisexuality online, the only peer-reviewed journal dedicated to the study of all aspects on bisexuality.   Check out our latest: a provocative special-topics issue on Bisexuality and Queer Theory!